Just met Pete, a hunk of a guy who is madly in love with my good friend, Lisa.
He is single, rugged and real cool.
Lisa is single but has a son, Adam.
I like Pete because he has no qualms about getting into a relationship with Lisa.
I wonder how many Malaysian men out there would be okay with this. With having a serious relationship with a single mom.
I asked Bob, a Malaysian, whether he'd fall for his wife, the way he did, if she had a child.
"Nope. No way," he remarked.
Why ever not? We're talking about Bonnie, the love of your life, for God's sake!
"Yeah.... but if she had a kid, no way."
What about just going out with her?
"Maybe..."
What! Go out and sleep with her and that's it?
You mean guys would go out with single mothers, bed them and then ciao, baby?
I asked Pete.
He loves Lisa. With or without a kid or many kids.
"Why are you asking, Eva?"
"Dunno, Pete. Stupid question, ain't it?"
Yeah. Stupid question.
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I'm a single mom with two kids aged 14 and 10. I've been single again for almost 8 years now. Its not a stupid question, Eva. Its what I have to go thru for the past few years. I sometimes wonder if my right to be married has been ripped off. Am I a lesser person now? I took care of my girls single handedly, work, and study, and excelled in all of that areas, and I have to accept that I am a lesser person?
Life is tough, here.
E,
I don't have to know you to be proud of you. I am humbled by what you have gone through.he best in life and may it ge
I know many single moms who are amazing women. They raise their kids on their own, keep house, work and all that..
you take care and I wish you the best in life and may it always get better for you.
Eva,
We have to accept the fact that people have differering attitudes, taste and preferences. Bob had his. There are definitely others like Pete who loves Lisa with warts and all.
My sister inlaw had 2 girls from her previous marriage. Despite that she married a bachelor who is a few years younger than her. They are still happily married and the husband love her children as if they were his own.
My own late mum married 4 husbands in her life time. My father is her latest husband. Both of them passed away with 60 days of each other with my mum going earlier.
zawi,
i agree...it takes all kinds to make the world go round and round..
Yr sister-in-law is lucky to have found such a man. And your mum...what a lady she was.
take care and thank u for visiting,
Eva,
don't know whether it is a malaysian thing that single men won' plunge into a serious relationship with divorcees o single moms.
i think it's quite the norm. Your friend's boyfriend is just one of possibly not many guys who's ok with that situation.
but i know of quite a number of malaysian guys (bachelors) who married, yes MARRIED, divorcees with kids.
No shit!
I ask one guy about it.
He said "dah jodoh". Ok. i can't argue with that. Pressed further, he said his wife was wonderful, mature, no hang-ups, tak mengada-ngada, not clingy, great in bed (aah.... dunno whether he was joking about this).
and "pandai jaga aku". whatever that means????
Witch,
yeah, you maybe right. can't generalise, can we?
yeah..they've been through one bad marriage and i guess, they've learnt from mistakes so the second time (usually it is the second time), is usually alot of trying to make it work.
also alot of lovvving. lusting, too. maybe. maybe not.
It does very much depend on not only the guy's attitude but also that of his family. What his family thinks will affect his decision, especially in a country like Malaysia. Culture too plays a crucial part. I think we are becoming more open minded.
Tunku Halim,
Now that is true. I do believe that to each, one's own.
People watch TV and they think that all of America is Hollywood or what they see in movies.
There are a lot of very conservative people here in the US.
Thanks for visiting!
i think in this millenium age, a lot of malaysian men dont really mind marrying divorcees or widows with children attached. love is love. thats all that matters to it. its just that sometimes they face objections from their family side esp their parents (usually the mother) or siblings (maybe 1 or 2 of them) who couldnt grasp the idea of their only son/brother (usually the case) marrying a divorcee with children and ESPECIALLY if the divorcee is much much older than him.
but lets face it this way - if she is older than him by 10 years say she is 40 and he is 30. by the time she reaches her 50 age he is only 40 and they say men in their forties are in their prime age and women in their 50's...well going thru menopause! and u know what they say women in that age?
its a different story if the women are much much younger than the men. she can still produce babies...u get what i mean?
kc,
oooh yes. i get the picture..
A person goes to bed with another person because both of them want it at that point of time. Whether a relation developed there after, its a different dimension.
Regardless whether they are single, married or being single parent.
Yes, some men leave, but some men stayed after the coitus. So does women. Too many variables about staying on or going on for the next bed.
Factors that bind a relation are variably too big. People change their mind after the event, for so many reasons. Love could come and love could go too. There is no guarantee in love and there is neither scientific methods to measure love.
Life goes on. If this does not work out for Pete and/or Lisa, then they should go trying to get another company the next round. Maybe it will be better.
If it does work for them, great!
May they have many more happy moments together.
Eva, when a guy like Pete falls in love it is for the whole package, warts and all. In a relationship, sacrifices have to be made and adjustments inevitable. Eva we do have Malaysian men like Pete and Bob.
In fact, the bobs and the petes abound in every corner of the globe.Tell Pete that he is my type of man and Lisa will hve to love him to bits.
I will tell your honeybunch that I blew you a wet kiss when I meet him for our friday beers.Ciao....and thanks for dropping by my post about the March.
BigDog,
Jeeez.
Are you man or machine?
Hey there Zorro,
you're my kinda man.
I'm missing out on a lotta things here. Malaysian men have come a mighty long way, eh?
And, oh.. honeybunch didn't fall ill after the long walk, did he?
And thank you for visiting, sir!
Me?
I am a dog. A Big Dog!
I live in a dog-eat-dog world, out there
Wooff....wooff..........
bigdog,
oh doggone it!
that explains everything, then. Woof Woof.
Now, I'll let you into a lil secret -- I'm a bitch..
Eva,
Interesthing things happen when a dog meets a bitch. I am enjoying the sight and the sound. Keep it going.
Zawi,
what could possibly happen? hahaa...
Eva,
Big dog will say 'roll over bitch, Iam tired and I want to get some sleep'.
Then he goes zzzzzzzzz.
zawi,
now...that would be what big dogs often tell bitches...
yeah....so apt.
thanks for this, Zawi. You have a sense of humour. Cool!
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